Wholeness is not something I, and maybe you, consciously think a lot about. Yet, we are quietly battling for wholeness daily.
“Do I matter?” “Does this matter?” “No one really cares!” “If I don’t do it, who will?”
These are but a few of the many questions and statements that suggest what it means to battle for wholeness. They reflect the self-doubt, uncertainty, disillusionment, and disappointment women so often feel; they also quietly reflect our anger and our “it’s not supposed to be this way” heartaches.
Tune in for free to the World Women’s Wholeness Summit, March 6-8, 2020!
World Women’s Wholeness Summit
My friend, psychologist Dr. Barbara Lowe has a huge heart for women and for helping women accomplish wholeness and not just leave a legacy, but live our legacy right now. She is the visionary behind the World Women’s Wholeness Summit that will be broadcast live and free, March 6 – 8, 2020. To register for this FREE life-changing event, visit www.3wsummit.com.
Dr. Lowe graciously invited me to be one of the 70+ well-known speakers for the 3W Summit, and I could not be more thrilled. I’m sharing on the topic of “Wholeness in Her Anger.”
Angry women
As I’ve worked with women over the years through counseling and women’s conferences, and as I’ve been more honest with myself over time, I know that you and I are sometimes angrier than we’re willing to admit. For one, we don’t enjoy being angry. We also often have been socialized to not show anger. So, what do we do? We cover it up! We quietly tell ourselves, “I’m not really angry. I’m just tired.” Or, “I’m feeling a little down.” We just won’t admit it—we are ANGRY! But, guess what?! Admitting our anger is a major step toward healing our anger! And, healing leads to wholeness. That’s true whether we’re talking about anger or any of the other issues that trouble us.
Wholeness in our anger
Let’s go back to the questions and statements above…
“Do I matter?” “Does this matter?” “No one really cares!” “If I don’t do it, who will?”
If those reflect our anger and lack of wholeness, then let’s reverse those statements to capture what peace and wholeness sound like:
“I matter!” “What I’m doing matters!” “People care about me and about what matters to me!” “I don’t have to do it all; I’m still worthy!”
Now, to admitting our anger…
“I am angry!” “I don’t like this. It’s not fair.” “I do, in fact, deserve better than this!”
Take a deep breath, and read those words again. And again, and again, until you feel the peace that admitting your feelings can bring. That peace is just a sampling of the wholeness that is possible when we admit we’re struggling, when we take steps toward healing, and ultimately, when we find the healing and hope that we always longed for. As we take these restorative steps, we grow more skilled in sustaining our sense of peace and wholeness no matter the challenges life throws at us.
Sources and resources
The many sources of our anger vary widely. We each have beautifully and tragically different stories. Generally speaking though, the deeper the woundedness you’ve experienced in your life, likely the deeper your anger. And, the deeper your anger, likely the more time and support you will need to accomplish healing, wholeness, and legacy-living. But, healing has to start somewhere. Why not now?!
You say, “but, I don’t know where to start.” Or, “I don’t believe healing is possible.”
I know. Starting is hard. Healing is hard. It’s going to take time. But, guess what?! Every small step is still a step!
Personal invitation
I hope you’ll join us for the 3W Summit. You’ll find many topics of interest. If you are interested in knowing more about healthy handling of anger, please listen to Dr. Lowe and me talk about wholeness in anger. We share lots of encouragement and pointers in our talk together. Plus, read my free resource at shannonwarden.com, Taming Anger: A Guide for Moms Who Are Tired of Feeling Angry. Women have shared over time that this little booklet has been helpful to them. Let me know what you think!
It might also be time for you to seek personal counseling to heal your anger and improve your sense of wholeness. You can always check your local listings for licensed counselors. You might also seek a free counseling consult by phone through the Counseling Department at Focus on the Family. If you’re in the Raleigh-Durham area in North Carolina, check out Dr. Lowe’s agency, Greenleaf Psychological and Support Services. Or, if you live in the Kernersville, NC, area, I have a small private practice and would love to help you work toward healing and wholeness.
Whatever your issues, I believe you’ll find some encouragement by attending the 3W Summit. You don’t even have to leave your house or apartment; you can simply stream the event throughout the weekend of March 6-8. I hope that you and I and all women who join in the weekend will begin consciously thinking more about wholeness and actively pursuing wholeness in our lives.
Help wanted
Please help get the word out about the World Women’s Wholeness Summit. Share the news with your friends. Invite them to join in, be encouraged, and gain new life tools for creating wholeness and living the abundant life that Jesus spoke of in John 10:10—“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” The 3W Summit is all about helping us as women grab hold of the abundant life, wholeness, and peace that we so desperately want and that God intends for us! So, pray with us for the summit and for all the women who will attend. Thank you!
Anger is something that sometimes quietly runs and ruins our life. Click here for my free booklet called “Taming Anger: A Guide for Moms Who are Tired of Feeling Angry.”
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